Inferiority complex is the unconscious feelings of inadequacy perceived by a person. This mental condition can be treated with psychotherapy.
Those who suffer from inferiority complexes feel that they aren’t at the same level as their peers, they have some weaknesses and deficiencies, which can cause considerable psychological distress whether these feelings are aware or not.
People experiencing inferiority complex at the same time want to be recognized and to be praised, being scarred by humiliation and fear. Many of humiliation experienced in the past underlying fear that it could be abused by other people.
As a result, there is an overcompensation desire to avoid humiliation and social contacts. Some people are shy and inferiority complexes and underestimate, while others may become aggressive in trying to overcome psychological stress related to feeling of dominance the others.
Signs of inferiority complex
- Imperfections of others – Since a person does not have a good opinion about himself will be difficult to appreciate and observe the qualities of other people. Who suffer from inferiority complex will try to find imperfections of other people and try to find ways to lower self-esteem and their confidence. The trend of having inferiority complex is to shift blame to others in order to mask their deficiencies.
- Destructive criticism – some of those who manifest inferiority complex know their defects or shortcomings, yet whenever receive any criticism of their actions, this amplify and worsen their condition. Because they have extremely low self-esteem are aware that they haven’t done a good thing but can’t overcome this.
- Shyness – People who suffer from inferiority complex tend to isolate themselves, avoid social interactions and encounters with others. They prefer to create their own universe rather than give them the opportunity to discover other defects.
- Appreciation – Sometimes those who have inferiority complexes want to be complimented on how they look, how they’ve completed some tasks or whatever. Because they are keen to receive feedback, if nobody’s praise will begin to tell others what they did just to pay attention in a positive way.
- Refusal to receive positive comments – In other cases, people who suffer from inferiority complex do not accept to receive compliments or positive feedback. These are usually seen as ways to make them feel better at the moment and are perceived as false statements.
How to avoid developing inferiority complex?
1. Pay attention to criticism involving situations that can’t be changed. This includes criticism of the general appearance or way of being of a person, sexual orientation, skin color, race, ethnic origin or any other matter that can’t be controlled.
After this kind of verbal abuse many people have serious issues with self-esteem. Victim suffers even more because there are no solutions to solve the criticized situations. When a person is subjected to this form of aggression, he should focus on the positive aspects of himself, on his own beliefs and values.
2. Create an invisible wall around you to protect the value of your being – Strengthening your positive beliefs and and their value helps anyone to find the right direction and achieve success. No one should have doubts and conflicting ideals, no matter what others try to inspire.
In simple terms, must learn to ignore the negative and inappropriate comments made about ourselves. Everyone should be aware that people are entitled to their own beliefs, but as normal is the attitude of rejection or filtering negative opinions.
3. Be open to constructive criticism – This is generally a positive aspect in a person’s evolution and indirectly contribute to personal development. Analyze and improve the weaknesses is the best approach to avoid the feeling of inferiority.
Focus on control weaknesses helps prevent negative charges or emotional imbalance that could result from other critics. It will objectively consider the situation and it will evaluate which could be gains that could be obtained due to these kinds of discussions.
4. Work closely with people who make you feel good in your skin. However, people who give you support and embraces you are precious and rare. The higher degree of independence increases, confidence and self-esteem will be higher. In addition to that, the self- confidence also allows to a lesser extent dependent on others to build your own values.
5. Love yourself enough, but do not become arrogant. It is normal for any person to appreciate up to a point, to have self-esteem, but should not overdo this. Also auto-sacrifice can bring benefits, but not if due to it occur exhaustion, frustration or obtain improper benefits.
6. Adopt a neutral position, keep calm and stay focused. For every person is good to know the limits and exploit its strengths. This can overcome situations where another person or situation could affect emotional and could give rise to doubts about the person’s own abilities.
7. Avoid sadness and anger. Negative emotions require precious energy. If anger is justified by the circumstances, it is important to calibrate energy. You must be better and more controlled than the aggressor. Energy can be focused on concrete results that may prove the aggressor that he is wrong.
Refocus your thoughts when you are angry and upset, concentrating on other points of view, in order to be successful and move forward. Another alternative would be to turn a stressful situation into a fun one.